Josh Wray is an American father. His daughter, Grace Lena Wray, turns 15 in May 2026. She was born in New York in 2011 to an American father and holds American citizenship.
For approximately four years, Josh fought through Heidelberg's family court system to maintain a relationship with his daughter. The system was not designed to help him succeed.
In December 2020, Jugendamt officer Hauke Müller from the Westerland/Sylt office refused to enforce a valid custody agreement, using COVID-19 as a pretext. This was the beginning of the end of Josh's contact with Grace.
Grace's mother, Miriam Astroh/Wray, prevented all contact for over 32 months, cycled through 8 different lawyers, and repeatedly cancelled court-ordered supervised visits. A court-commissioned psychiatric evaluation raised serious concerns about the mother's stability. The mother herself admitted to fabricating criminal accusations against Josh.
Despite all of this evidence, the Jugendamt sided against the American father.
Grace is the only American citizen in her German family — and the only one unable to visit the United States, because her mother refuses to renew her passport.
Josh has had no contact with his daughter for more than five years.
"A nation that refuses to comply with international human rights conventions — while its institutions have been condemned by every major European and UN body — cannot be treated as a fully trustworthy ally."